Stop Being ‘Nice’
Accommodations are not a favor. They should be an expectation.
We shouldn’t need to beg for a spot at the table. When someone hurts you, it isn’t your job to make them feel better.
I’m working on this by no longer saying “it’s okay” when someone makes an insensitive remark about my stutter, even if they didn’t mean it to be insensitive. I say “Thank you for the apology” if they apologize. or “Now you do!” if they say they didn’t know.
We don’t need to pretend to be okay when our world doesn’t include us, or makes us feel like a burden. Human beings are not burdens.
Speak them out loud. It feels awkward. But your body is listening.
“If we only get one life, I want to spend it fully present in body and mind.”
4 Tips on overcoming our own weird feelings about our stutter and learning to accept it
Some days, it may feel like the world is against you, but you have hope. Hope that things can change. And that you can be a part of that change.
Having a disability is not being broken. Hard stop.
“I held out hope for years that something, some day, would magically cure me. But nothing did. The only thing that ever eventually made a difference was me.”
When you say you want you or your loved one to speak “normally” - there’s a few issues here.
In the moment, stuttering feels endless. But the secret is the opposite - the word will eventually come out. Even if it takes awhile.
Accepting your stutter is exchanging one hope for another. It’s sacrificing the one thing you thought would save you this whole time: fluency.
We don’t need to pretend to be okay when our world doesn’t include us, or makes us feel like a burden.